Please share your Couples Bio, including how long you have been together:
We met in 1990 in India – in the ashram of our guru, osho.
(Miten): I was coordinating the evening meditation music in the ashram. After we met we began singing together.
(Deva): Although I was not a singer at the time, i had received classical music lessons from my mother, who was a classical musician and teacher. My father had chanted the gayatri mantra at my birth and consequently I chanted it all through my childhood as a bedtime song.
I was brought up in an environment where mantras and spiritual discipline were the norm.
(Miten): I grew up in London and worked in the music business as a singer/songwriter in the 60’s and 70’s, touring with Fleetwood Mac, Ry Cooder, Randy Newman and Lou Reed and recording with the Kinks.
(Deva): For the last 21 years we have been traveling the world constantly (around 25 countries per year) sharing the healing power of mantra.
What I Love About The Energy Of Us:
Do you find that the passion and energy of your relationship translates into other things you do?
Well, first thing, we don’t consider our connection a ‘relationship’ in the usual sense – the bottom line for us is, that we are friends – this is our basic connection. Our focus is on an attitude of friendliness and respect – one that honours each other’s freedom of expression. We have found that it is very inspiring for us to live this understanding – of being free and supporting each other.
This gives us the opportunity to share the music and the mantras in a very open and straight, honest way. Which is important, because our concerts are not ‘performances’ as such, so we have the possibility (and challenges!) to share our selves, as we are, in the moment, on stage or off. This seems to inspire our audiences.
When you have an amazing relationship with a great energy, how do you feel that it affects your humanity and the energy you put out into the universe?
It has a positive effect. The mantras offer us all a doorway into a deeper sense of communion – with ourselves, with our loved ones, with mother nature, with life and essentially, with spirit.
What do you feel is the most important factor that has contributed to your successful relationship?
The most important factors are – the healing power of the mantras, the music we make together, and the guidance of our guru, osho.
What quality did you see in your partner that made you want to be with this person? Do they still have this quality?
(Miten): I remember the first time deva and i hugged – i was so blown away by a deep and profound sense of stillness – it was unusual for me, even then, to be in the presence of such an old soul. And yes, the stillness she carries still remains!
(Deva): I was attracted to what i can only describe as his feeling of ‘universal love’ and, of course, I loved his music – it was played every night for the evening meditations in the ashram – his songs and his expression of devotion to the guru moved us all. And he’s so funny!
What kind of surprises and challenges have there been in your relationship?
The biggest surprise so far is that the past 23 years have been so amazingly free of challenges.
What bare-bones truth have you learned about your spirit that transcends all other matters?
Love is all
What is the best piece of relationship advice anyone ever gave you?
Well sting said it very well; if you love somebody, set them free.
How do you handle disagreements?
(Miten): She’s always right!
(Deva): Disagreements come and go – quickly – they don’t seem to linger – and before we know it, the storm has blown over….
How do you keep your relationship exciting?
We sing together, we pray together, we make love together…we give thanks together. And we travel a lot, which keeps everything fresh and open.
What is the most romantic thing your partner has ever done for you?
(Deva): He wrote a love song for me (till i was loved by you) and sang it on stage every night on our last USA Tour!
(Miten): So many things, but the thing that turns me on most about deva, is her acceptance of me the way I am – to me, this is soooo romantic – and very nourishing for the spirit!
Advice For Other Relationships:
What is your definition of love?
(Miten): It’s the love for yourself that you share
(Deva): Impossible for me to define love….
What is the best relationship advice anyone ever gave you?
Don’t make it a relationship.